TIPS FOR CAREGIVERS

1. Read their cues.

They may not want to be passed to people the way they once did (even grandma!)

They are in distress when you leave, even for short periods of time

2. It’s normal.

Many children experience difficulty with separation

3. Be patient.

Separation anxiety is a phase and will come and go throughout early childhood

4. Don’t sneak away.

Leaving the house when your baby isn’t looking isn’t helpful and makes your baby feel unsure of things

5. Practice saying goodbye.

Try phrases like “mommy (daddy, grandma, etc.) always comes back”

6. Be positive.

Try saying, “I came home and I can’t wait to hear about your day” instead of “I missed you so much.” This shows children that separation is normal and healthy, and not something sad.

Stay calm when your child is crying – though it may be intense and feel awful, their reaction is usually short and they are easily distracted.

TIPS FOR PROVIDERS

1. Prepare for it

Know that separation anxiety can peak around 8 months and warn families about what to expect before it happens. Knowing that it is normal can relieve a lot of unnecessary stress on caregivers.

2. Object permanence

The idea that disappearing things come back is critical to handling issues with separation. Playing peek-a-boo can help develop this skill and can be modeled for caregivers in the visit.

3. Lead by example

Telling children what is coming next, who is coming in and what to expect is a great way to model for parents the importance of clear communication and allow children to feel in control.

4. Approach gently

Try avoiding eye contact with children when they feel afraid and don’t force separation. Encourage children to stay on a familiar lap or ask them to a hug a caregiver while you examine them.

For more information on Separation, click here.

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