Accidents are a normal part of potty training — but many families aren't prepared for how many there will be, or how long the process can take. An accident doesn't mean something is wrong or that a child isn't ready. Toddlers are still developing the body awareness and impulse control it takes to notice an urge, communicate it, and reach a bathroom in time - and that timeline looks different for every child. When families expect faster progress than they get, frustration builds quickly. And frustration makes harsh responses more likely.

‍In the visit, try:

• Setting expectations early. Letting families know accidents are a normal, expected part of the process — not a failure — can take real pressure off before it builds.
• Encouraging a consistent routine. Regular potty breaks throughout the day (using the clock), especially after meals and before transitions, can reduce accidents.
• Redirecting toward encouragement. Calm, matter-of-fact responses to accidents and genuine praise for successes work better than pressure or punishment.
• Asking how it's going. Families who are struggling may not bring it up. A simple, "How's potty training going?" lets you get ahead of it before frustration builds.