Empathy is the ability to imagine how someone else is feeling in a certain situation and respond with care.

Being able to empathize with another person means that your child:

• Understands that other people may have thoughts and feelings different from their own.

• Recognizes common feelings like happy, sad, angry, scared, etc.

• Can watch a situation—like seeing a child saying goodbye to their mommy—and relate to how another person might feel.

• Can respond with appropriate behaviors without being asked to. For example, giving a hug to comfort someone.

What does a child need to develop empathy?

• A secure and loving relationship with their primary caregiver(s)—this could mean mom, dad, or someone else close to them.

• Ability to consider how someone else feels (begins at 6 months)

• A beginning realization that other people’s thoughts and feelings can differ from their own (begins 18–24 months)

• Ability to know him or herself in a mirror or picture (begins 18–24 months).

How do I nurture empathy in my child?

• Empathize with your child

• Talk about feelings (good and bad)

• Suggest ways your child can show empathy (“He seems scared because he’s all alone, why don’t you go stand next to him?”)

• Read stories about feelings
• I Am Happy: A Touch and Feel Book of Feelings by Steve Light
• My Many Colored Days by Dr. Seuss
• The Feelings Book by Todd Parr

• When your child is upset, frustrated, sad, or experiencing any difficult emotion, let them know the emotion is okay and don’t rush to immediately fix it.

• Use pretend play to experience how others feel

• Help your child focus on how other people are feeling (for example, ask “Why do you think she’s smiling?”)

• Help your child understand how their actions affect others

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